I work for my parents, and I find the job extremely frustrating and dull (There are technically two other staff members- our business is quite small- we deal in electric fences).
One of them is practically always on the road and the other one makes me feel like I’m mentally handicapped. I work as hard as I can and be friendly, but on the inside I just want to find another job- desperately. It is hard to do this, considering how bad the job market is here in New Zealand.
All in all the only thing which is keeping me at work is the fact that it gives me money. — Ben
Well Ben, I guess you are fortunate enough to have a family business and working in it. Now about the boredom part of it, currently you get bored and you think your job is dull.
In other words what you are saying is that it is not that challenging or interesting. Usually we face the emotion or we do get bored and dull in life when the mind is looking for something more interesting, it wants to move away from the current situation to find something more interesting and entertaining.
And the lack of this stimulus, it could be either music, games, tv, it could be anything. We use these things to move away from boredom.
If we are getting bored we will watch some tv, or listen to some music, and that is the solution for us to move away from boredom. But over time what happens is the mind is highly dependent on our environment to keep us happy, to keep us interested in life
So if we are in the habit of listening to a lot of music or watching a lot of tv or hanging out with friends having fun. The minute we are doing something other than that or something that is less interesting, the unconscious response from within is I am bored, I am getting frustrated or I am feeling out of place.
So what you need to do here is you need to work on your self, to avoid feeling bored or frustrated in your family business. You need to work on yourself because currently, due to whatever circumstances, you are living life unconsciously.
You are depending on the environment to keep you happy, keep you entertained, make you feel that life is interesting.
Maybe the next job that you take, it could be a little more interesting, but there will be days even there where you will get bored, when there is this lack of a stimulus to keep you engaged, to keep your mind engaged.
But if you just work a little on yourself, by practicing self awareness or what I call finding yourself everyday, this practice of self awareness will keep your mind engaged in the awareness of who you truly are.
Currently your mind is attached to certain stimulus to keep itself interested or engaged, entertained in life. You need to break this pattern because this can arise anywhere, at any job. It is not the job that is making you feel bored, it is you who cannot manage or you who are not managing your mind properly, and hence it is getting bored due to a lack of stimulus.
Engage in life consciously, try and be conscious during your daily life. One you start to practice self awareness, please sign up below to receive a free guide.
When you incorporate this practice in your life of self awareness, of being conscious in your day to day life, and allowing your mind to be aware of who you truly are. This will be the first and the only step that you need to take to move away from boredom, to move away from this pattern where your mind is so dependent on a stimulus to keep you entertained.
This practice will help you stay stable, calm and peaceful as you engage at your job, or engage with people. Even currently in your family business, there are so many things that are interesting that you can do.
Sometimes in life we are served everything on a silver platter, and we are not mature enough to know what I can do with this job, or what an opportunity it is for me.
We have other priorities, priorities that are not in line with the work we do. But are those priorities right for me, that you can only know when you know your true self and your decisions are not influenced by what your friends are saying, or what the current trend is in the market. When your decisions are not based on the opinions of society, it should be a decision from within. And for that you have to practice self awareness.You have to be able to detach your mind from all these thinking patterns
Even currently in the work that you do, you can help out, you can help your parents by learning more about how you can market your business maybe, how you can reach out to new customers. Maybe you may need 2 people on the road than.. you never know.
But you can take this initiative by first practicing self awareness, so that you get in this freedom, from this attachments to stimulus to keep you going, to keep you interested in life.
Once you are practicing self awareness, you can simultaneously read up on how you can take your business forward, on how you can reach new customers and get in more people to work for your business.
You can take more control over your business by thinking in the lines of your business. You will be than taking a more mature approach to your family business.
So I wish you the best Ben in your life, and do help me out by sharing this content on your social network so that the word can go around.
—- Neil Azavedo
Image by : Ultimatephili