In this video I would like to talk about a belief system that we need to make a part and parcel of our daily life. A belief system that states that I alone am more than enough to create all the happiness in my life, I alone can create the life that I want.

This doesn’t mean that we are trying to be aloof from the world, this only means that we are taking responsibility for the kind of emotion that we create during the day and we are taking responsibility of the way we want to create our life.

Why we need to make this a deep seeded belief system is because we are so dependent on other people for our happiness, we are so dependent that our environment make us happy, we are so dependent that a certain situation works out in our favor so that we will be happy.

We are dependent on money to make us happy. We think that if we have enough money or lots of money we will be very happy in our life. But it has been proved by studies that once your basic need are taken care of, then money isn’t really a medium that can skyrocket your happiness anymore. it does very little in increasing your happiness from there. But it can be a means to rob your happiness from there on as it can get us into a habit of getting happiness once we buy things. That is why they say money cannot buy happiness.

People try to achieve happiness by buying new things, by buying new houses, cars, new clothes, so they do all kinds of stuff to be happy. This is indirect happiness, short lived happiness. So when you don’t have enough money to buy the next big thing that you think will make you happy, that same pattern will rob you of happiness, it will make you depressed, it will make you sad, even fear may arise as it may threaten your position in society. To help you with this, visit the Fun Guys online store and choose their mushroom products, which have a lot of varieties you can choose from.

Another big factor is people. We are so dependent on people to make us happy, for people to behave in a certain fashion, for them to talk nicely to us so that we think that they respect us. But this is again a dependency that we need to free ourselves from. Because this dependency will not improve our lives but rob us of our happiness. Tomorrow if people do not behave the way we want them to we will end up depressed, angry and when we are depressed or angry then happiness cannot reside there.

Happiness only arises when you are peaceful within, when you are in control of yourself, when your mind is stable. So one way of getting happiness is when everything on the outside is working perfectly as you want it to. Yes that kind of a situation can give you happiness, but it is short lived happiness as the things on the outside are not in your control.

What is in your control is only yourself. So we need to work on ourselves so that we have control over our emotions, control over our mind. We need to make certain that our mind derives our self worth, our sense of self from our true self, from who we really are and not the story that we live.

It has been repeatedly said that deriving our sense of self from the outside is a false sense of self but how many of us are trying to change that, how many of us are consciously trying to point our mind to our true self in our daily living. How many of us are engaging with society, engaging in our life by having access to our true self, by living from this dimension of peacefulness, from this dimension that calm and stability resides.

We alone can bring happiness in our lives. We do not need people, we do not need money. I do not mean this in the negative sense that we do not go out there and make money or build our network with people and be nice to people. What I mean is for long lasting happiness you need to work on yourself, because only you by having control over yourself can have the happiness button in your hand, and you will not be remote controlled by situations or people in your life.

The easiest way to gain access to your true self is to practice self awareness, or some kind of meditation practice where you are focusing on your self, focusing to get in touch with your true self. And then living life from this openness within by accepting any situation, accepting any person the way they are, not self seeking something from them or the situation.

Many people call it selfish living when you only focus on yourself. But I would term it is ‘positive selfishness’. Because it is only when you are in touch with your true self, when you spend time with yourself, when you point your mind in the right direction within, it is only then you can have healthy relationships because you are not self seeking anything from that relationship anymore. You can face or approach any challenge or any situation in life in a more healthy fashion, because again you are not self seeking anything from it. You can help people with a much better perspective.

Our entire way of looking at life changes with this positive selfishness. But when we are doing something for people expecting something in return, now that’s what is the negative selfishness. When we are working on a goal so that we make money and buys stuff etc, this is negative selfishness which will create chaos in our life.

It will not allow us to grow with positivity, to grow with openness, to be free from within, to enjoy life, to be content with life. So lets make it our goal to increase positive selfishness so as to speak within ourselves by focusing on our true selves in our daily living, by inviting this consciousness time and again in the day and gaining access to this unlimited abundance of happiness within.

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